Sunday, August 24, 2014

Principles to Follow in Life

1. Think independently and don't follow the crowd.

2. Love without reason, but never hate without.
3. Find happiness in making others happy.

4. Stop being concerned about how others perceive your actions.
5. Stop being angry as far as possible.
6. Don't take someone's words literally when they are angry.
7. If you are not sure why someone said something, don't take it negatively.
8. Smile often and return smiles.

9. Never speak only bad things about anyone or anything.

10. Always keep improving yourself in every aspect of life.
11. Always aim for the best.

12. Follow your heart, not tradition or common sense.
13. Be humble, it goes a long way into increasing your acceptance.
14. Lose your ego, it kills relationships.
15. Don't hesitate to do what you feel is right.
16. Have determination, and belief in whatever you do.

And finally...
17. Whenever you violate these principles, remember them.

Monday, August 11, 2014

Morality and the Indian Culture

The Indian culture instills tremendous pride within ourselves due its vast diversity and tolerance of languages, races and religion. At the same time, there are some aspects which put us to shame. One glaring aspect is how the society deals with intercaste marriages, and the so called "moral policing" that happens all around. Indian society has long nurtured a warped and twisted approach to morality that dates back to several centuries ago. A man and a woman spending time together has always been viewed with suspicion and often dealt with wrath and repulse by sections of society. Love marriages are discouraged and dealt with as if it is a vice. Inter-caste marriages have been bestowed with scant tolerance. To add to it all, any approach people try to make in the right direction is lambasted and labelled as westernization.

Morality is an interesting topic to touch on due to the fact that people who gloat about it the MOST don't have a remotely decent idea of what it is, nor possess any true moral ethics. Our 'moral police' thinks that - stopping men and women from spending time together, restricting the type of clothes women should wear, beating up people who celebrate valentines day, breaking the windows of hotels which conduct parties - and such amazing acts show morality and protect our culture. If these people with their boiling bloods gave the same effort into protecting true morality by spreading human values like love, kindness and empathy we would have been light years ahead of where we are today in cultural advancement. As for those who consider any kind of such progress as westernization, we are in the right path when we incorporate the good things from any culture, while preserving and upholding our own great values to the fullest extent and eradicating our backward ideas.

Despite the religious tolerance and diversity that India boasts, the same tolerance unfortunately, hasn't applied to inter-caste marriages. Those who marry a person from another religion have to almost invariably go through tough times (upto to an entire lifetime) due to the hate and wrath they have to face from religious zealots and sections of people with primitive thoughts. So alarmingly often, one of the couple is forced to change their religion to the same as that of the other. It hurts me to the core that people can still be so backward and outdated that you can't have two people marry from different religions peacefully and lead happy lives- more often than not. Each religion is a different view of the same thing- god. You and me may have our disagreements with the view points of certain religions, but we shall NEVER show intolerance to any religion(or even to agnosticism or atheism) for that matter. The next thing is the caste system within religion. In the 21st century, may I ask why do we still need this system of dividing people already divided over more than enough issues? I sincerely hope the caste system, which has been the basis of classifying people based on "superiority" disappears FOREVER not just from records but also from peoples' minds. I hope I won't have to write down my caste against any kind of record ever again.

Notwithstanding religion, love marriages are often difficult ordeals for the concerned couples due to the negative attitude shown by society including their own parents and relatives, even in the modern times. Arranged marriage is directly or indirectly taught as the right approach and love marriage as the wrong approach. I'm not talking against arranged marriages here. I'm talking against the negativity and discouragement shown to love marriages. An adult person has the complete freedom to choose the type of life he or she wants. Complete freedom cannot exist in the backdrop of persistent discouragement, persuasion and intimidation. Parents can advice their children and guide them- which is good and necessary, but not strap the adult child's freedom to live his/her own life. People, ESPECIALLY girls are apprehensive to tell their parents about their love because of the negative image of love that is constructed on them from childhood. Those who muster the courage to tell are often opposed. Love is the very base of a couple's relationship, and seeking love is viewed negatively. People are asked to stop their love interest and proceed with an arranged marriage to a person whom they barely know. Logic please: you are going to make the most important and critical decision of your life and persuaded to spend your life with a person who you haven't ever met before or even known. Love marriage is a person's liberty and right. The society should never form any kind of obstacles to this. Not only that, it is our DUTY, all of us to help people marry the person of their interest. I request you all to understand that to have something change for the better we should also play our parts, given the opportunity the very least. A request I have to all parents is to help children differentiate true love from lust, instead of viewing love negatively.

Friday, August 1, 2014

The War Against Evil

World can be broadly divided into two: LOVE and EVIL. Ever since the world was born, love has been at a never ending war with evil. One's victory is the other's defeat. It is everyone's duty to help love win this war. What world needs to prosper, is people living with love for each other and trying to make each other happy. People need to have the qualities of kindness, care, concern and sympathy. To make a good society we need to root out all the evils, as much as possible. Some thoughts that may come to anyone's minds: "A perfect world is boring. Life is not fair, lets deal with it." The reality is that a perfect world or society is an IDEAL situation that will never happen, so we will never get bored. The closer we get to achieving it, the better it is for humanity. Why can't the world become more fair instead of resigning and accepting defeat with the idea that we can't achieve everything? Yes, it is true we can't achieve EVERYTHING, but we can achieve SOMETHING. To defeat evil, the first thing we need is a perfect understanding of what all are the true evils which basically sum up all the problems in this world.

1. Superiority complex: 

The feeling that you are superior to certain other people, and hence are entitled to harass or bully them, and to attain joy at their expense. We see different forms of this in all walks of life. Take for example the school or college environment. How many of you have never been subject to some form of deliberate harassment or mental/physical abuse during your school/college days? If you weren't, then you have been very lucky and you belong to a minority. Even then you must have been witness to such events at some point of time. This kind of harassment can have a permanent negative impact on victims, and can destroy them mentally/physically, critically affecting their careers. Despite all the anti-ragging laws in educational institutions we know ragging exists almost everywhere in varying degrees. The root problem lies not with the strength or implementation of the laws, but rather in peoples' mindsets. The thought that ragging is 'okay' since it "helps individuals develop self-confidence and gives them the ability to deal with tough situations" is as outdated as the most backward sins prevelant in the society such as the 'Sati'. This existence of this very thought is the main reason why people don't feel the need to take proper action against this malpractice, and a section of students go ahead with it, without regrets. The case in educational institutions is just one of the many similar examples that can be seen in fields upto politics and sports.

2. Lack of empathy: 

This leads to people being selfish, without any care or concern towards how other people feel. Living only for themselves, makes people keep looking for ways to satisfy themselves, regardless of how it affects others. Such a person ends up exploiting others for his/her benefits. A prime example of this problem can be seen together with the feeling of lust. Lust is not an evil as such, and resides in EVERY person in different amounts. However, lust together with a lack of empathy constructs a big danger and this is the reason why rape happens all over in this society. Does rape happen mainly because men want to show their superiority to women (I hear this argument all around these days)? No, it happens because an evil together with an inherent characteristic of every person, subdues the self-respect and dignity of the individual (offender). If a person is empathetic, he will not attain pleasure at another person's sorrow. Again, the case can be extended to many other topics as well.

3. Lack of intellect: 

Intellect refers to looking into logic and reason before making a decision. The absence of intellect leads to conformism. An example is the typical Indian classroom. Teacher asks a question to students and those who say yes are asked to raise their hands. Before deciding whether to raise hands, students look at the each other and think: "Oh, not many are raising their hands, so lets not raise hand myself." Conformists don't feel the need to stand for the right, and look instead at what is the general trend or public opinion. Then he/she agrees to this opinion that has the better support of the public instead of thinking on his own and forming an opinion without prejudice. This tendency is alarmingly widespread and you might have already been annoyed several times by this in your life either if you have been the subject of opinion, or if you simply had tried to question the wrong things happening around. Absence of intellect makes people resistant to change and refuse to question or speak up against the unjust norms. For instance, sections of people keep blindly defending outdated views and beliefs that consider women as inferior to men. Another one is the 'moral policing' when men and women are seen together in a place or travelling together. Such things will keep society in the dark ages for decades to come unless every right-thinking person tries to man up and stand for the right instead of siding with the trend.

There are no perfect people in the society and all have some kind of evil existing within themselves. Just that some have lesser amount of evils and others have more. When we get a good grasp of what the evils are and try to root them out, we can improve. The realization of what is good and what is evil has to be fed into individuals as early as possible during life. A person is the product of what all he/she hears and learns right from childhood. A society is in turn the product of all its people. True education is one that PRIMARILY imparts these essential moral values in preference to maths, science and technology. We live in a world that needs to change for the better at every given opportunity. This world means you, and me. Only if we work together can love triumph over evil.